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AP 0910: What Are Your Top Confidence Tips?

AP 0910: What Are Your Top Confidence Tips?

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AskPat 910 Episode Transcript

Pat Flynn: What’s up, everybody? Pat Flynn here and welcome to Episode 910 of AskPat. Thank you so much for joining me today.

Guys, this is a huge day in the history of Smart Passive Income and AskPat, and for me, because today marks the first public open-enrollment period for my brand-new course, I’m literally holding peoples’ hands through the process of actually starting their own podcast. Getting them over all the humps related to that, from fear of your own voice to what it is that you’re going to talk about, how you’re going to stand out, what are your episodes going to be about, and how do you actually reach out to guests and have them on your show and say yes to doing that, to just finding people to kind of actually listen to your show, and all the tech stuff. Like, everything is covered, step by step, and I walk you through the process. It’s been beta tested already so the public launch is a huge deal. And so I cannot wait. If you want to sign up, go to And for the first time ever—I’m mentioning this for the first time ever on AskPat—there’s also a second option to have you attend a two-day workshop with me in San Diego, California, that I’m leading in September—actually at the end of September, early October. A two-day period for me to walk you through that process and actually go through all the course material in just two days. By the end of it, you’ll be all set and ready to go. So, you have your options there. But if you want to check it out and see what’s going on, is the place to go. Would love for you to have your own show some day, if you don’t already. And I want to be the one to help you do it.

Alright, thanks guys, for letting me share that with you. I’m not going to talk about it too much more in this episode here, but I do want to answer Bree’s question today, an amazing question that came in from Bree related to confidence. So let’s get right to it, here we go.

Bree: Hi Pat, my name is Bree, from And I also have a niche website called that is just starting out. And my question is just about confidence. It is something that I talk about a lot on my personal brand, and I was wondering what tips you may have, as far as having confidence to do things that you’ve never done before, things that you might be afraid of, and what do you do when you feel like you need to push through? What are your three things that you could give as advice for confidence and doing things afraid, even if you are afraid. Thank you so much for everything. You are the best; I love you and you have been a great help, always. So thank you so much.

Pat Flynn: Hey Bree, thank you so much for all the support. I appreciate you so much, and for listening in, and especially for asking this question. I think it’s going to be helpful for, hopefully not only you, but everybody out there listening.

So what are three ways to gain confident to do things, even when you are afraid? So the first thing is, I know one of the things I fear when I try something new is just kind of the fear of the unknown. Especially like, first steps, right? It’s like walking, you take steps very carefully and if you come to that point where things look a little bit scary, you kind of go even slower. Sometimes you’ll even go backwards, and just go back to your comfort zone. And of course, all of the most amazing things in life happen outside of your comfort zone. So you’re going to have to take some steps forward. And that first step is always the hardest thing. So one thing I do to gain confidence is to just research and talk to people and understand anything I can about the first step. Sometimes I don’t know where that first step’s going to lead me. But I at least want to know that I’m headed in the right direction, right? Which is why validating your idea is really important. Or why joining a course, so you know the right sequence to actually put something together, is really important.

You know, all those kinds of things can help you with confidence, because they just help you get started. And of course, once things get rolling—and you know if you’re headed at least in the right direction, even if you don’t know where that final outcome is. But at least you know you’re going toward that thing that you know you’re shooting for. It’s much easier to focus all that energy on that next step and making sure that first one is the right one.

Number two is I focus on, as I go along, the small wins. So again, just like how these big goals are very intimidating, sometimes you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel, it becomes very deflating. Especially if you start putting a lot of work into it. I love to take big, giant goals and big, scary things and break them down into little, mini milestones. And one thing that I love to do is really celebrate the small wins when I achieve them. I mean, like I was talking about earlier, this is a huge win today with Power-Up Podcasting, but I remember my first time launching a product, back in 2008 with my architecture site, helping people pass an exam. I mean yes, that was huge undertaking, to get to the point at which I would sell a product to those people to help them pass an exam. But some of my best wins were getting emails from people saying, “Pat, thank you for this information that you’re sharing with me.” Or the first time I wrote a chapter in that book. Really celebrating that moment of actually having a full finalized chapter in my book that I knew was going to be just one small part of a larger whole. And so, really celebrating small wins. Man, you gotta do that because it can be very deflating along the way if you don’t. Because a lot of what we often try to do is so large that if you just focus on the end outcome of that, it’s going to seem like it’s going to take forever, and you’re going to retreat. It’s not about the end goal sometimes. Sometimes, as Miley Cyrus sometimes says, it’s about the climb. Sorry for that reference, I probably lost some customers at that point. Anyway, that’s just what’s going through my head.

Okay, number three, the final one I want to share with you, and that is, encouragement from others. There’s nothing like having other people who know what you’re doing, who share the same values, who can be there to encourage you, who can be there to hold you accountable; to be there to actually hold your hand through the process and to answer your questions too. And so that’s why I feel like getting involved with other people, with whatever it is that you’re trying to do, is really important. So whether that’s getting a mentor, or finding a mastermind group, or even joining a community: There are many communities on Facebook, or even in person like, that you can go and find other people who are like you or who are doing something similar, or who have these same fears. You can kind of fall on each other for help and for encouragement, right?

This is why, within Power-Up Podcasting, there’s the Student Center, which will have hundreds of students. Before launch, there were 160 students in there from the beta launch. But all the new students are going to be in there as well, the alumni. And that has been a crucial component for the founding members who were going through this process. Because they all were helping each other out, sharing wins like I said in tip two, small wins along the way. Seeing people’s cover art, having people link to their show there as well when they come out, it’s just so cool. And when you see other people do that too and they’re encouraging you along the way, and you see somebody just one step ahead of you and they say, “Hey, this is what helped me,” man, it’s just so helpful. So mentorships or mastermind groups or communities like that’s really important. And also in Power-Up Podcasting, you get access to me and office hours for a month, too, which is really fun. So anyway, that’s that.

And finally, here’s tip four. This is a big one for me when it comes to fear. And that is, thinking honestly about the answer to this question: What is the worst that can happen? Oftentimes when I try something new, my brain just goes off on this tangent of ridiculous things that would never happen in real life. But for whatever reason, we just think of the worst outcomes possible that are super unlikely. For example, when I started speaking on stage, I remember I had visions of me going on stage, forgetting what I was going to say, crying, people throwing tomatoes at me—I don’t know where these tomatoes came from, they just had them, and then I’d slip and fall in the juices of the tomatoes, and I’d break my nose. And then, like, later on I’d end up naked in a ditch somewhere. Like, that’s what I thought, like, literally. And I don’t know if you think that’s weird, but I think you can relate to just how crazy our brain can be sometimes, and trying to block us from doing something new.

And so for me, I often ask myself, “Well, what’s the worst that can happen?” And the true answer to that question is significantly less scary than what my brain initially thinks, often. And so, I just think of the answer to that and that typically pushes me forward. “Oh, that’s it? Okay. Well, I’m going to do it anyway. What’s the worst that can happen? They’ll say no.” Or, “What’s the worst that can happen? Maybe I just don’t enjoy this course and I’ll just ask for a refund,” which—there is a refund period because there’s a money-back guarantee with Power-Up podcasting as well. Anyway, see how I sprinkled Power-Up Podcasting in there, kind of naturally?

Anyway, guys, I appreciate you so much and especially you, Bree, for asking this question. Hopefully these three, or actually four, tips are there to help you and help all of you get through the process and the fear that you might have so that you can gain that confidence, because you need that to move forward, right? And hopefully this has been helpful.

So thank you so much, Bree. I want to send you an AskPat t-shirt for having your question featured here on the show. And for those of you listening, if you have a question that you’d like potentially featured here on the show as well, just head on over to and you can ask right there on that page.

Thank you so much. I appreciate you. And here is a quote to finish off the day, by W. Somerset Maugham: “Imagination grows by exercise, and contrary to common belief, is more powerful in the mature than in the young.”

Alright guys, take care. Thank you so much, I appreciate you, and here is that link one more time to Power-Up Podcasting, and that is Thanks, guys. Bye.

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